Hey guys!
So I’m looking for a graphic designer to help with creating a website. The website is going to be tailored toward today’s urban subculture. If you are interested in building your portfolio, please email Horace at thevilledgenyc@gmail.com.
Tips and advice on moving
Hey Beauties! In my previous post I told you I was away because I was in the process of moving, but now that things have settled down quite a bit more I wanted to share some of the tips that I had after this experience.
- Organize beforehand- No one likes clutter, so why bring the junk and things you’ve been holding onto to your new house. It also makes is easier to unpack once you get to you new place. While you are at it go ahead and donate things you aren’t using to someone who can really use them.
- Call ahead for pricing – Whether you are using your local movers or doing what I did (having a couple of friends and my boyfriend rent a truck and move the stuff ourselves) you want to make sure you call ahead and budget properly so that aren’t hit with any surprises when it’s actually time for you to move.
- Clean – If you are able to get your keys early to your new apartment or home try to go in and do some cleaning before you actually move in. I just moved into an apartment and I know I can be a little OCD and I like things clean, but I unfortunately wasn’t able to get in any earlier and do any cleaning.
- Don’t wait – I know that moving is a tiring process but please don’t wait too long to unpack. I know when I moved everybody was hot and tired already. We waited a day and the following day I started to unpack because once again I’m a little OCD and I couldn’t stand seeing all of the boxes and bins everywhere. But if you aren’t OCD like me and don’t mind a lttle mess than you have to do what’s best for you.
- RELAX – This is the most important piece of advice that I could give. When I moved I was so excited because this was my first apartment but I was so stressed because we didn’t start on time. We had to move picking the moving truck up to the next day. Needless to say it was a very stressful weekend for me, but when I finally got time to relax on Monday(ha!) I could sit back and laugh and realize that everything works out. So if this is your first move or if you’ve done this before remember to breath and relax. Things are going to go wrong but it will be okay!
If you have any tips or suggestions for moving, please let me know! I’m sure it will be really helpful to me in the future and to others who are moving currently.
xoxo
Updates
Hey beauties!
I know it’s been so long since I’ve updated anything and I feel so bad, but I have been so busy with this move and getting settled. We finally are somewhat settled into our new place, we have majority of our furniture but are still wanting a few bits and pieces. This move has been crazy; it’s been happy times, sad and stressful all and one. It’s been great coming into my own home and having my own space and rules. But of course on the down side there comes the adult responsibilities like bills lol. Tips to anyone moving out for the first time; please make sure you budget and save beforehand. I think I’ll make a separate post about the things that I learned, but I wanted to just update you beauties on what’s going on. More to come!
xoxoxo
8.14.15
Hey Beauties!
So I have some great news to share with all of you, I know I’ve been talking so much about moving out and getting an apartment with my boyfriend but it is finally happening. We just got approved for an apartment and will be handed the keys on 8/14/15. I am so excited, this is my first apartment but I’m just excited because we will finally be closing the gap on this 4 year long distance relationship. It’s all so surreal to me, I was just stressing about this a couple weeks back and finally it is working out. I know we will have some challenges ahead but I’m ready to take them on together. If any of you are living on your own or with your significant other, what tips and tricks can you share with me? Leave them below.
xoxo
Review: Rimmel Stay Matte Primer
Hey Beauties!
So I know I’m probably really late on this but I thought I would still share it with you guys. I was recently on the hunt for a really good primer that would keep me matte throughout the day. I have really oily skin and without a good primer I look like I just splashed water all over my face by the end of the day. So I have tried a few, some high in and some drugstore brand but nothing was really working for me. Either they would be too drying for my face or didn’t last long enough for me. So one day I went into Walgreens just to do some looking and I came across this Rimmel Stay Matte Primer, I was skeptical at first but I couldn’t argue with the price, so I thought why not. The first time I used it I fell in love, at the end of the day I still looked dry and fresh. It doesn’t have a scent which I like and it doesn’t feel sticky like some other primers I’ve used. It does say that you can use it before your make up, after you applied it, or even alone. I did try to use it without and it ended up being super drying so I would suggest against it. I haven’t tried it after applying my make up yet so I can’t really give my take on that, I might try to mix it together with my BB cream and see it that will make it last longer. I would definitely recommend this to the girlies that have to deal with oily or even combination skin for a long lasting matte look. Has anyone else tried this before? If so let me know how you liked it 🙂
xoxo
Update !!
Hey Beauties,
I know I been MIA, I’ve been working like crazy and on my free time I just been hanging out with my friends and family. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about where I would like to see this blog go and I want to go beyond just blogging, I would eventually like to move into make videos and maybe even beyond that. But of course for myself I know I need to do one thing at a time, and that starts with this blog. I going to put as much time and effort as I can into make this blog the best that it can be, so you guys can expect to see more reviews, maybe some hauls and lookbooks for the summer. There will also be more advice on beauty, relationships and much more. Thank you for the new followers and the ones that still have been here with me even though I haven’t posted anything in a while. I would like to reconnect with a lot more of you, because I see your blogs and you guys are all amazing. I’m excited to get back into this because this is what I love to do, and I will work my hardest to reflect that.
xoxo
FAQ: Long Distance Relationship Edition
Hey guys I decided I wanted to do a FAQ for long distance relationships because I tend to get a lot of questions in regards to my relationship. First off I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we actually met on LiveProfile which is similar to Kik. I never told people the truth in the beginning on how we met because I was afraid that people wold judge and hell I didn’t feel like hearing other opinions. So without further ado let’s get to the questions….
1. What makes a LDR work?
In my opinion communication is key! Communication is important in any type of relationship that you have so you know that is has to be on point when being away from each other. Secondly there has to be trust, there’s no point in having a relationship without trust. If you have to constantly think about what your partner may be doing when you aren’t around, then you may really need to rethink some things. Lastly for me, respect is a must. Respect also carries into any relationship that you have, you need to respect one another and set boundaries for what works best for your situation.
2. Is a LDR better than other relationships you’ve been in before?
This relationship has been a lot different in many ways, I’ve grown to get to know my boyfriend and he has become by best friend. Where with other relationships I felt that I rushed into putting titles on things before actually getting to know that person. With Horace the approach was completely different, we spent about 7 months of just talking and getting to know each other. We learned about what each other liked and didn’t like, what our hobbies where, etc. By the time our first date rolled around, it wasn’t that awkward silence that I experienced so many times before.
3. What is the hardest part about being in a LDR?
The distance would have to be the hardest, and not just because you can’t see one another everyday but because when times get hard and you butt heads you aren’t able to sort out your feelings face to face. You end up discussing these things through text messages and over Skype and I don’t know about you guys but that isn’t exactly a forum I would like to have those types of conversations on.
4. When did you realize that you wanted to make this a serious relationship?
When we would talk everyday all day and I still couldn’t get enough, I wanted to know more about him and found that although we are complete opposites and brought out a different side of me. When I realized he challenged me in different ways and his attitude was completely different than other guys that I had talk to I realized that taking a risk and making it a serious relationship was worth it.
5. Do people tend to downplay your relationship?
All the time, when I tell people that he lives 5 hours away they always give me that look as if it’s not as real because he’s not physically right by my side everyday. We have been together for 4 years, and not everyday has been a good day. We’ve had some really bad times to where we did feel like throwing in the towel and giving up because we felt that lack of support or because we couldn’t see eye to eye and wanted to both just quit. But of course we have our good times and those always outweigh the bad. But during those darkest times is what matters most because anyone can be by your side when it’s good, but will you be by myself when things get rough? He’s always proven that he’ll stick by my side no matter what obstacle has comes our way. I feel our relationship is right up there with the other “normal” relationships, in my opinion LDR’s experience more challenges.
6. If someone would have told you today that 4 years ago you would be in a LDR, what would your response have been?
I probably would have laughed, I never thought I would be in a long distance relationship, it definitely wasn’t my first choice. Do I regret it now? Not at all.
7. Is marriage in your future? Do you plan on moving in together?
Marriage is definitely in the future, we both have discussed getting married but we want to do it on our terms. Everybody seems to have their two cents but at the end of the day it’s what we want to do. We don’t want to just get married because of what others have to say. We definitely plan on moving in together, actually trying to get it together for this summer.
8. What about kids?
We definitely want kids…..but once again on our terms.
9. How do you feel about online dating?
Just like with regular dating practices, it has its good sides and bad sides. I know it isn’t for everyone and if you are going to do online dating, I just say be smart and don’t do anything you know you aren’t comfortable with doing just to get a guy. You have to stay safe whether you meet somebody online or at the mall, there are creeps online and offline.
10. What advice would you give others that are thinking about being in a LDR?
Do NOT commit to a long distance relationship if you aren’t fully committed. And when I say that I mean don’t enter something that your heart isn’t going to be fully in. Relationships are already hard, don’t drag somebody along just because you want your cake and want to eat it too. If you are the type of person that can’t commit to a “normal” relationship then this is not the right choice for you. Also take your time, get to know that person and make sure you take the time out to really get to know that person. Communicate with each other, even if it isn’t all day, a simple check in is always nice. And most importantly don’t over think everything, enjoy the good times and stay strong during the bad.
xoxo….
Happy Anniversary!
So a couple of days ago, it was my 1 year natural hair anniversary. This year has been full of ups and downs and full of learning experiences. But all and all I wouldn’t change anything, I will never go back to have relaxed hair, not saying anything bad for those that choose to remain relaxed….but for myself I can never see myself going back to that. I have seen so much progress in my hair, so much growth and so much more strength. Being natural has allowed me so much more freedom, I go to the gym more than I ever have in my life because I don’t have to worry about sweating out my hair. There is so much versatility with having natural hair, one day it can be straight, the next curly, or pretty much any hairstyle that I can imagine. I’m very happy to have made it one year strong and I look forward to many more years to come!
xoxo
Back to the grind….
This weekend I took a mini vaca to Raleigh with my honey, although it was short it was really nice just spending some alone time together. We stayed in, had room service and watched a movie. Then for Saturday night we went out to try something new, we tried this place called Bad Daddy’s Burger Bar (have any of you been there?) and let me tell you…it was SO good! It could have been that I had eaten 8 almost 9 hours earlier and was starving, but the vibe of the place was nice, the drinks was good, and the food even better. It was a little expensive but it was a nice little treat. The thing I hate most about these trips is of course the goodbye’s. My boyfriend and I have been in this long distance relationship for 4 years and he is my best friend. He’s the person I can laugh with and cry with, I feel the most comfortable when I’m with him because he just lets me be me and never judges me. Anyways it was hard to leave today, but I know we will do this mini getaway again.
P.S if you have a Bad Daddy’s close to your home please go try it!
Updates
Hey guys, I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted but I have been so busy with this new job and really haven’t had time to blog as much as I wanted to. But I’m finally getting organized and have some good reads coming. I’ve bought some new make up and have plenty of reviews for you. I also have been thinking about some relationship topics that I can write about and hopefully get some feedback on. I want to try my challenges with you guys, because I see that a lot of people follow but we don’t really get to talk and get to know one another and I would like that to change. But enough with the rambling I just wanted to update you guys and let you know there’s more to come !
xoxo
Kinks & Kurls 