Updates 

Hey beauties! 

I know it’s been so long since I’ve updated anything and I feel so bad, but I have been so busy with this move and getting settled. We finally are somewhat settled into our new place, we have majority of our furniture but are still wanting a few bits and pieces. This move has been crazy; it’s been happy times, sad and stressful all and one. It’s been great coming into my own home and having my own space and rules. But of course on the down side there comes the adult responsibilities like bills lol. Tips to anyone moving out for the first time; please make sure you budget and save beforehand. I think I’ll make a separate post about the things that I learned, but I wanted to just update you beauties on what’s going on. More to come! 

xoxoxo

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Back to the grind….

This weekend I took a mini vaca to Raleigh with my honey, although it was short it was really nice just spending some alone time together. We stayed in, had room service and watched a movie. Then for Saturday night we went out to try something new, we tried this place called Bad Daddy’s Burger Bar (have any of you been there?) and let me tell you…it was SO good! It could have been that I had eaten 8 almost 9 hours earlier and was starving, but the vibe of the place was nice, the drinks was good, and the food even better. It was a little expensive but it was a nice little treat. The thing I hate most about these trips is of course the goodbye’s. My boyfriend and I have been in this long distance relationship for 4 years and he is my best friend. He’s the person I can laugh with and cry with, I feel the most comfortable when I’m with him because he just lets me be me and never judges me. Anyways it was hard to leave today, but I know we will do this mini getaway again.

P.S if you have a Bad Daddy’s close to your home please go try it!

Updates

Hey guys, I know it’s been a while since I’ve posted but I have been so busy with this new job  and really haven’t had time to blog as much as I wanted to. But I’m finally getting organized and have some good reads coming. I’ve bought some new make up and have plenty of reviews for you. I also have been thinking about some relationship topics that I can write about and hopefully get some feedback on. I want to try my challenges with you guys, because I see that a lot of people follow but we don’t really get to talk and get to know one another and I would like that to change. But enough with the rambling I just wanted to update you guys and let you know there’s more to come !

xoxo

2015

I miss the old me sometimes. I miss how careless I could be, not afraid of trying new things and putting myself out there. It’s sad to say that as I got a little older I became more afraid and more cautious about putting myself out there. I don’t know if it’s fear of being hurt, rejected or what….but it’s not a good feeling. It’s hard putting yourself out there when people have become so sneaky and don’t have your best interests at heart. But I will say when you meet those people that are worth your time and energy, you should value them. I don’t want to say new year, new me but I feel like things are finally starting to look up for me. I will be starting a new job in February, enrolling back into school to get my Bachelors degree, working on becoming a better friend,daughter, sister, aunt, girlfriend, granddaughter, and me. In 2015 let’s forget all the fear and do what we said we were going to do. Let’s work hard on those goals, and set higher bars for ourselves. Let’s be good to one another and just be better for ourselves. I’m ready for 2015, are you?

Today was a real eye opener for me. Due to some recent events I was starting to think about it the relationship that I had with my father and it made me sad all over again. I could never understand why we couldn’t get our relationship on the right track…. I always blamed myself because for a while I feel like he had disowned me. Well this morning I went to church and it just so happened that’s what the pastor was talking about. To sum it up he basically preached that although you may have family members that disown you, shame you and may not love you the way you deserve….God will love you no matter what because he has been in any situation you can think of and he is not ashamed to say that you are his child. So long story short…..despite my flaws and my mistakes I know that God will love me just the way I am.

Rant of the day…..

Here’s my little rant for the day….I have been in my long distance relationship for 3 years and counting. Although we may have hit a few bumps in the road we know what works best for us, so I find it humorous when people try to speak on a situation that they know nothing about. Let me tell you something whether you are in a long distance relationship or if your man or woman is living in the same house as you….if you don’t have trust you don’t have ANYTHING. If you don’t communicate with one another how are you to work through any problems that you may be having. The other day a co-worker approached me and we started talking about our relationships. I told her that my boyfriend was going out with his girl best friend and she completely lost it. She couldn’t figure out for the life of her why I thought it was okay. She said you can’t trust girls (and although I find that to be true I didn’t find it accurate in that moment) because girls are always trying to be sneaky. To make a long story short we shared our difference in opinions and I came to the conclusion that if you feel some type of way about something then you need to address it with your significant other. And if you feel the need to chase after him or her checking every little move they make then maybe you need to reconsider the relationship. Of course you’ll have insecurities but I feel it’s the other person’s job to make you feel as secure as possible. I was also told that I don’t need to be in such a committed relationship but yet I should be enjoying my life being in my 20’s….But whose to say that I’m not enjoying my life being in a committed relationship. I’ve been extremely happy these last 3 years and I’ve experienced so many different things. No we aren’t perfect but I’ve gained a best friend; someone I can laugh with, someone I can cry to with my little problems, someone that loves me inside and out. So I’m saying all of this to say that not everybody’s situation is going to be the same, some people enjoy dating around and some people enjoy being with just one person. Yes you are entitled to your opinion but just remember your experiences are not mine and you can’t push what you feel onto someone else.

Y’all people that have your significant other right there and aren’t in long distant relationships better appreciate one another. I get so sappy seeing other couples together holding hands and kissing. One day…..

My Ladies

My ladies, stop comparing yourself to other girls. We are all beautiful and unique in our own ways. I know I have a bad habit of comparing myself to other girls especially if I think my boyfriend thinks they’re cute, but that’s an insecurity within myself….always trying to be better than the next chick. We (girls) have a horrible habit of tearing each other down instead of trying to uplift one another. Everyone is beautiful….sure you may not have a feature that the other girl has but that doesn’t make you any less pretty. And STOP letting this men make you feel like you have to look a certain way….if that’s the case then he ain’t the one for you. Be with someone who thinks you are beautiful even on your worst days when you want to crawl back in bed and try it again tomorrow. Find someone who looks at you for more than just your breast or your ass….Find someone who can make you feel special. Too often have I put myself down thinking that my boyfriend didn’t think I was as pretty as other girls…when in fact it has been myself looking and wanting to be like someone else. Embrace what makes you you and love yourself flaws and all. How about this…the next time you go to talk bad about someone try to find something to compliment them about instead.

Hate to leave….

Just got back from my mini “vacation” in Charlotte and it was great. But of course it always sucks when it is time to leave. We did go look at apartments and actually found one that we both liked, so things are moving in the right direction. I am trying to stay positive in all of this but I always hate when I come home and I am excited about something especially moving out and nobody else is even really listening to what I am saying. I’m the type of person that will listen to what you have to tell me, or you can vent to but I always end up surrounded by the people that change the subject into a completely different direction. The reality of it is you have to be happy for yourself, not everybody will agree with the things you decide to do in your life but at the end of the day it is your life and you have to do what makes you happy. People are going to talk whether you doing bad or good, so why not just live your life and worry less about what people have to say right?

UPDATE !

Hey guys, I’m getting really excited now. I just got approved for my vacation time for next month, so I will be in Charlotte checking out and hopefully applying for an apartment while I’m there. It’s getting real now because December is approaching rapidly and we are almost there. It has been very stressful trying to work as much as possible so that this move will be possible but it’s about that time we get out and get our own. Hey if anyone is from Charlotte, let me know of the good places to visit!