Advice 101: Is confidence really all you need?

Being a plus sized woman with natural hair has definitely has it ups and downs for me.There are times when I feel less confident and really start to question the way that I look. I’ve allowed other people to get into my head and tell me what I should look like or try to make me feel bad for being me. I use to be the type of person that had to wear a lot of makeup or try to show off my body to make up for something that I thought I was lacking. When I realized just how crazy I looked, and how I was trying to make others around me happy, I stopped. Now I wear clothes that accentuate¬† my favorite body parts instead of them hanging out, now I know I don’t need to cake my face full of makeup. Looking in the mirror and reminding myself just how beautiful I am, has given me the confidence that I need to see that I don’t have to rely on the opinions of others to make me feel good about myself. So yes I say confidence is all that you need, when you are confident about yourself other people can see that and I think they respect it more. They know you are happy with yourself and their opinions are not important. So the next time you think doing something crazy will make other people happy, please STOP and think about what would make you happy in the long run.

What being a curvy girl means to me.

I am every definition of a plus size woman. I have big boobs, a tummy, a butt, thick thighs…you name it. It has taken me (and I’m still learning) so long to accept the way that I am. There are days when I wake up and I feel good about the way I look, my clothes are fitting right and everything. Then there are other days when I wake up and nothing seems to look right and it becomes a frustrating battle all over again. I get so much crap about the way I look, people telling me you should work out or I can’t wear certain things. Let me tell you something, I may not have the perfect hour glass shape but I love every single one of my curves even on the days they don’t want to work with your girl lol. I wear what I want to wear, if I feel comfortable in it I’m going to rock it. If you don’t like it don’t look and we’ll be good. Don’t call me something that you wouldn’t want to be called, because I still have feelings. I’m nobodies fetish, and hate it when I’m some “man’s” challenge. Finding someone that appreciates you for you is hard now a days, but when you find that person hang on to them. When they can make you feel beautiful even on your shitty days, appreciate that. I will probably always be curvy and will forever have my good and bad days, but that’s me. I love who I am and the moment I stopped allowing other people tell me who I should be and what I should look like is the day that I really fell in love with who I am. Fotor0515215737

So Excited!

This Friday I watched my best friend, my love walk across the stage in completion of his senior year at ECU. Even though he said it’s was no big deal for him, it was a really big deal for me. I am so proud of everything that’s he’s accomplished. Y’all need to understand I’ve been with him since the end of his freshman year of college till now, it has definitely been hard but the good times outweigh the bad. Being in a long distance relationship is hard especially while being in school, there have been times when we can’t talk because he has to study or has a lot of work to do. And yes there have been times when I was a big baby and wanted more attention. We have been through it all and still remain strong. I’m proud of you baby! Congratulations!

Honesty Hour: I hope you read this

Sometimes it’s really hard for me to accept the fact that I can’t fix every situation, even if it happens to be a situation that I put myself in lol. Having that feeling of panic is the worst, my mind rambles on because I wish I didn’t say anything or I wish that I could have taken it back. Another eye opener is realizing that you’re not always the victim, sometimes it is about the other person and what they may be dealing with at that time. The stresses of everyday life can be definitely trying but as someone told me, “you need to just relax” and everything else will fall into place. I know that everything will be just fine.